Therapy for Loneliness and Social Connection

Loneliness is one of the most painful human experiences and one of the least talked about. You can feel lonely in a room full of people, in a long term relationship, or in a place as beautiful and community oriented as Hawaiʻi. If friendships feel hard to build or hard to keep, if you feel like you do not quite belong anywhere, or if you are simply longing for deeper connection, therapy can help.

I am Dr. Abby Halston (Ed.D., NCC, LMFT-S), and I provide online individual therapy for adults navigating loneliness, friendship difficulties, and social connection challenges throughout Hawaiʻi. Sessions are via secure telehealth, accessible statewide from wherever you are.

Loneliness in adulthood rarely looks the way we expect it to. It is not always about being alone. Common experiences include:

• Feeling lonely even when you are surrounded by people
• Struggling to make new friends as an adult
• Finding it hard to move past surface level connections
• Feeling like you do not quite belong in the communities around you
• Losing friendships after a major life change such as a move, divorce, or becoming a parent
• Social anxiety that gets in the way of connecting with others
• Feeling left out, excluded, or invisible in social settings
• Difficulty trusting others or letting people get close
• Wondering why relationships that seem easy for others feel so hard for you
• Going through the motions socially while feeling disconnected underneath

Living in Hawaiʻi can make social connection particularly complex. The islands have strong existing social networks built around family, community, and shared history. For people who are new to Hawaiʻi, returning after time on the mainland, or who feel like they do not fit neatly into the communities around them, finding genuine connection can feel especially difficult. Therapy can hold all of that.

Therapy for loneliness and social connection is not about being taught how to make friends. It is about understanding the deeper patterns, fears, and experiences that shape how you show up in relationships and what gets in the way of the connections you want. I work with you to:

• Understand what has shaped your relationship patterns and where they come from
• Identify what gets in the way of closeness, trust, or belonging
• Work through social anxiety, fear of rejection, or past experiences of exclusion
• Build confidence in initiating and sustaining friendships
• Process grief over friendships that have ended or drifted
• Develop communication skills that support more authentic connection
• Clarify what you actually want from your social life and how to move toward it
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Many adults have never had a space to take their loneliness seriously. Therapy provides that space without judgment.

Therapy for loneliness and social connection may be a good fit if you:

• Feel lonely or socially disconnected and are not sure how to change it
• Have recently moved to Hawaiʻi and are struggling to build a social life
• Are going through a life transition that has changed your social world
• Find social situations overwhelming, exhausting, or anxiety provoking
• Have experienced painful rejection, exclusion, or a friendship ending
• Notice patterns in your relationships that you want to understand or change
• Want support that is private, individual, and accessible statewide in Hawaiʻi

HMSA, UHA, and HMAA insurance accepted for eligible online therapy services throughout Hawaiʻi. Please contact your insurer to verify your behavioral health and telehealth benefits before scheduling.

Is loneliness something therapy can actually help with?
Yes. Loneliness is not simply about being alone. It is about feeling disconnected from others even when people are present. Therapy helps you understand what is driving that disconnection and build the internal capacity for relationships that actually feel nourishing and real.

Is it normal for adults to struggle with friendships?
Yes. Adult friendships are genuinely harder to build and maintain than most people expect. After the built in social structures of school or early career fade, many adults find themselves without a clear path to meaningful connection. Struggling with this is more common than people admit and it is something therapy can directly address.

Does Dr. Halston work with social anxiety related to friendship and connection?
Yes. Social anxiety is one of the most common factors that makes peer relationships difficult for adults. Dr. Halston works with adults whose social anxiety gets in the way of making or keeping friendships, using evidence based approaches including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to address it directly.

What if I have lived in Hawaiʻi my whole life but still feel like I do not belong?
That experience is more common than people realize, particularly for adults whose identity, values, or life path feels different from those around them. Therapy provides a space to explore that sense of not belonging without judgment and to build a clearer sense of where and how you want to connect.

Does Dr. Halston offer therapy for loneliness online in Hawaiʻi?
Yes. All sessions are conducted via secure telehealth, making therapy accessible to adults across Hawaiʻi including Oʻahu, Maui, the Big Island, Kauaʻi, Molokaʻi, and Lānaʻi.

Does insurance cover therapy for loneliness in Hawaiʻi?
HMSA, UHA, and HMAA are accepted for eligible telehealth therapy services. Coverage varies by plan. Contact your insurer to confirm your behavioral health and telehealth benefits before your first appointment.

How is this different from just needing to get out more?
Loneliness is rarely solved by simply being around more people. If it were, it would not feel so persistent. Therapy helps you understand why connection feels difficult and addresses the emotional patterns that keep you stuck, rather than just encouraging you to try harder socially.

Call (808) 364-7970 or contact me today to schedule your first online therapy appointment for loneliness and social connection support in Hawaiʻi.